God Created Sex

In the United States we live in a sexually charged and  sexually deviant culture.  The damaging effects of the sexual revolution of the 1960’s has come to full maturity.  While there are many reasons why this has happened, one reason is that for too long the Church has allowed public schools, secular Hollywood, pop-psychology, and mainstream media to educate and shape the sexual views of the younger generation.  For too long the Church has remained silent on the subject of sex as though sex is inherently evil, even within marriage.  Thus, among Christians it has become taboo to speak about sex with our children, in one-on-one discipleship, in small group Bible studies, and certainly within church.  The result is that Christian married couples learn about sex either from the secular world or they don’t speak about sex at all which then leads to unhealthy sexual relations within the marriage which often leads to unhappy marriages which often leads to divorce.  When a Christian married couple does realize they have an unhealthy sexual relationship, they seek the advice of a secular psychiatrist for help with their love life.  Why?  Certainly the Bible has nothing to say about sex and the Church can be of no help in this matter whatsoever, or so many think.  Many Christians think this way, despite the fact that God created sex and made it enjoyable on purpose.  The Song of Solomon screams this point.  Yet for centuries the Church has argued that this book is really just about the love between Christ and his Church.  While it is true that all scripture is about Christ and points to Christ (Lk 24:44) and, thus, the Song of Solomon is ultimately about Christ and his love for his Church, it is interesting to note that God uses highly sexually suggestive language to describe this love.  This is because God intended for sex between a husband and wife to be the greatest physical and emotional expression of their love.  God is not ashamed of sex between a husband and wife.  He created it.  And sex between a devoted husband and wife is God-honoring and God-glorifying.  God intended for husbands and wives to fully enjoy each other in the privacy of their own bedroom.  Thus, for example, we read in Song of Solomon 1:12 that the woman says this about her man, “While the king was on his couch, my nard gave forth its fragrance.  My beloved is to me a sachet of myrrh that lies between my breasts.”  If the king is lying between her breast, likely between her legs, then her ‘nard which gives forth its fragrance’ is not likely a nearby bowl of potpourri.  Another of the many examples is in 2:3 where the woman describes her husband saying, “As an apple tree among the trees of the forest, so is my beloved among the young men. With great delight I sat in his shadow, and his fruit was sweet to my taste.”  It takes little imagination to understand what she is describing.  She describes her husband as a standing “tree” and describes herself sitting “in his shadow” (likely in front of him) and tasting his fruit.  While this kind of language can cause some to blush and make us a bit uncomfortable, the point is that this language is found in Holy Scripture, which means God put it there.  God designed sex to be fully enjoyable between a husband and wife.  It is a delight to God when husbands and wives delight in each other and pleasure one another, and if the Church does not teach this to our teens and young married couples, they will develop unhealthy and unbiblical views of sex from the world.